How You Be Lovin’?

Whose definition of love do you live by? It is such a simple yet profound question especially since most of us formulate our definition of love first from our parents and then from the world around us. Maybe that’s why so many are insecure since we view others through...

All the Clues We Missed

I love movies. I love eating popcorn and milk duds as the previews roll. I love snuggling into my pillow as “Feature Presentation” lights up my widescreen. I love films with intricate plots that drop subtle clues along the way. And I love movies with surprise endings...

What’s Your Default?

If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it 100 times: I’m a control freak by nature and–thank you, Mom–by nurture as well. It’s what I’ve defaulted to time and time again when chaos threatens the order of my world. I also default to Oreos and milk before bed,...

I Defy You

I defy you. You would have me see the world your way. You would have me play by your rules. You would have me use lies and manipulation, deceit and flattery, subterfuge and silk to win a prize of smoke. I defy you. You would have me climb into the muck and wrestle...

How to Get a Spiritual Six-Pack

She had no beauty, distinction or grace to attract us to her, nothing in her appearance for which she might be desired. Familiar with both sorrow and suffering, she was actually reviled and rejected by men. Like someone from whom men avert their eyes in disgust, she...

Sex, Sloth, and the Sugar-ites

In the 60s, it was sex, drugs, and rock’n’roll. Fifty years later, sex still tops the list (that probably won’t ever change). But strutting in spots 2 and 3 are the vices American capitalism cedes around the world like headlice—sloth and junkfood. The rest of the...

Just Like My Sisters

Eve did it. So did Sarah. And Rachel. Adam fell for it. So did Abraham. And Jacob. And I’m sure if I continued through Genesis, I’d find more. More of the same control games that still go on in the lives of men and women today. EVE: Honey, look. Isn’t this beautiful?...

New Year’s Acid

What’s it take it keep our New Year’s resolutions? Most of them get discarded like last night’s pizza box. Weight loss, quitting smoking, exercising regularly, going back to school, spending more time with family, changing occupations. The list is so common....

The “S” Word

1 Peter 3:1-6 has always been an inspiring scripture for me. But distantly. For 48 years of my life, it wasn’t a verse that specifically applied to my life—I wasn’t married to a non-Christian man or its spiritual equivalent. But as it always does, Life changes....

Looking a Gift Itch in the Mouth

In the last three weeks, I’ve developed an allergic reaction to what, I don’t know. The reaction came in the form of dry, red, and puffy skin that started between my eyebrows, curved around my temples, and ended at the center of my cheekbones. It’s marvelously...